Is Your Partner Cheating On You? Relationship Expert Reveals The Key Signs To Look Out For

 

People are often genuinely shocked and heartbroken to discover that their spouse has been unfaithful.

 

But in many cases, there were a number of key signs there all along that they simply failed to spot.

 

Here, relationship expert and Perth's Millionaire Matchmaker, Louanne Ward, has spoken to FEMAIL about the signs to look for and the different kinds of cheaters you may come across. 

 

'There are several different types of cheaters and infidelity comes in different ways, shapes and forms. The most common of these I've narrowed to three types of cheaters and the tell-tale signs can vary slightly,' Louanne said.

 

 

 

Ms Ward said most people feel for this kind of cheater as 'they have convinced themselves and anyone else that knows that this is a very tough situation'. 

 

They will be going through the 'we didn't set out to hurt anyone' and the 'I love my partner but I'm not sure if I am still in love with them lines'.  

 

So what do you need to look out for? 

 

'They will start by talking about a new person at work, at golf or tennis club etc. and you won't think too much about it until it starts to almost become awkward,' Louanne explained. 

 

 

You may notice that this person is starting to stay back at work a lot, starts having lots more events to attend (using their boss or friends as an excuse), is travelling more and is being noticeably more expressive and happy with their body language while on the phone. 

 

This person will likely also amp up their social media use and become suspicious about it, close apps and pages down when you walk in and start saying things like 'I'm not happy' or 'I just need some time alone'. 

 

Other signs include less frequent sex and affection, not kissing you like they used to, coming home late from work and having a shower before bed. 

 

'This is not uncommon, however after being 'out with the boys or girls', if they mysteriously shower before offering you any affection it spells alarm bells,' Louanne said.  

 

'Often they will also start spending more time with the kids, because they begin to feel guilty due to the possible upcoming breakup of the family. Therefore, they start trying to improve their relationship with the children as a result,' Louanne said. 

 

 

'This type of cheater is a once off cheater. They may just have a momentary lapse of judgement during an innocent break from the routine like a boy's/girl's trip, weekend away or business trip,' Louanne said. 

 

Signs of this cheater include them becoming standoffish and uncharacteristically uncommunicative or going out of their way to tell you how much they love you.

 

'They will tell you they love you but the lip service doesn't turn into the full after sales service,' Louanne said. 

 

These people will also likely have moments of guilt and buy you unexpected gifts or seem more distant when spending time with you even if you are spending more time than usual together. 

 

'Often, they will make plans to go somewhere nice but when you get there the conversation is stifled,' Louanne said. 

 

 

They will also likely daydream a lot and put any distant behaviour down to being 'stressed at work'.  

 

 

'If a cheater gets away with cheating, the thrill of this can become exciting. Which is why, "once off cheaters" often become serial offenders. So, it's very important to look for the telltale signs,' Louanne said. 

 

 

So what should you look out for? 

 

'This narcissistic cheater is a seasoned pro so they can be harder to detect because they have mastered their craft,' Louanne said. 

 

 

After laying this base down, this cheater now has their 'get out of jail' card if they need to use it, Louanne explains. 

 

Louanne said this cheater is the hardest to identify as they 'know the track and have the road map imprinted in their dialogue'. 

 

Although the same rules apply as the other types of cheaters, there are a few extra things to look out for. 

 

'When you raise the normal questions about where they have been, whether they had a good night and who were they with, what you don't expect in return is their defensiveness,' Louanne said. 

 

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Culled from Daily Mail UK