Prodigal Husband: Why You Should Never Take Him Back When He Returns Old, Broke

 

Sometime ago, a woman gave a testimony in a big church of how her husband who left for 18 years came back home.  Everyone in the church was excited and rejoiced with her, while I was indifferent.  I needed to ask her questions before I conclude if there was anything miraculous about her testimony.

 

I wanted to find out more. I wanted to know if the man sent her money for upkeep and school fees when he was away. I needed her to tell me if he called regularly to check up on their kids, if he knew the school his kids attended while he was away and many more. The only reason I can rejoice on her testimony is if I get positive answers to these nagging questions, because I see no reason why a man would abscond without an explanation and abandon his family for years. Even if you are having problems with your wife, that shouldn’t include your children, you should take care of your children and be responsible for them.

 

There is another story of a man who claimed a prophet told him his wife was a witch and so he should stay far away from her. So, he left his family and till now, no one knows his whereabouts.  His wife has been taking care of their three kids and please tell me how he is going to prosper while his children are suffering? Ok, let me grudgingly agree that his wife has been the one bewitching him all this while but did the prophet include his kids? Can’t he think of a means of channeling funds to his kids for their upkeep? What are his relatives doing about his disappearance? Are they going to pretend they don’t know where he has gone?

 

I know someone whose husband disappeared without a trace for no reasons and many years later he was seen on a television program.  His wife never bothered to contact him. One day when I am permitted to share this story, I will.

 

Also a lady, who was married for five years, was sent for a week’s course at the office. On her return, her husband had cleared everything in the house and these included all what she bought with her money. The guy was gracious enough to leave only the curtains. This lady almost ran mad but thank God she found love again and she is living happily in her second marriage.

 

Last weekend, I was with one big aunty and we got talking about this issue and her elder sister made a funny remark, which got us all roaring with laughter. She called it husband kidnap.  I think it’s only a coward that behaves that way. If you are man enough, explain to your family that you are tired and that you want out.

 

Tell them the marriage is no longer working for you. When you were courting her, you swore to always be by her side, but now that you have suddenly developed cold feet, please be brave enough to tell her to her face that you are no longer interested.

 

Even if she is a well-known witch and you have caught her many times flying on a broom at night, I think she has a right to know why you are leaving her. If you are so afraid of her witchcraft, send someone to her or give her a call. Abi witches are now so techy that they can cast a spell on you via a phone?

 

Don’t just disappear without a trace! Stop tying these women down! Set them free and send them divorce papers!

Moreover, the reasons many of these men do this is because, they want to eat their cake and have it. They want to stray and come back when they are spent and weary. Of course, they know these women will take them back because society encourages them. They even roll out drums and slaughter the fattest cow to celebrate their homecoming.

 

Unknown to these women, most of these men were pushed out by their “kidnappers” when they are no longer useful to them. Their “kidnappers” have finished ransom and they are back home with a terminal disease. So, the first wife automatically becomes the nurse, she will be the one cooking and cleaning up his wounds.

 

Moreover, our society knows how to pamper men, the patriarch mentality is very strong and so we come up with stories that touch for every runaway husband.

 

Stories like; “He must have been charmed by the strange woman”.

 

“Hmm he didn’t do it intentionally, the woman cooked vegetables for him”.

 

“Ha! That man loves his family but it’s the fault of the wicked people that made him abandon his family.”

 

“The man is a very quiet man and it was his wife that pushed him out”.

 

“The wife never dresses well and she was already looking like his mother”

 

Oh! Will you people please shut up!

 

The only reason these men left was because they were having great sex. What were they looking for that they went to eat charmed vegetables? How did they get into the laps of Delilah? They should explain why they left their wives for days and were sleeping in another woman’s arms while their wives were worried sick at home. How come the charms cleared when they are now broke and tired?

 

98% of the men who absconded from their marriages did so because they were simply selfish. Only 2% might have been victims of circumstances.

 

Let me share another story with you. A woman single-handedly trained all her 5 children through school with no help from her absconded husband. For many years, she didn’t hear anything from him and at some point she even thought he was dead.  But one day, he appeared and went to their church. The pastors and all church elders begged this woman to take him back but she refused. After much persuasion she agreed to have him but she told him clearly, “Donatus, see I am an old woman now and I really don’t know how to serve a man again”. The man wept but his tears didn’t move this woman. I laughed when I heard this story.

 

The annoying thing is that many of these men ran off with younger women and sometimes, these women are not as stunning, gorgeous or accomplished as their wives. Unfortunately, these men seldom show any remorse for this heart-wrenching behaviour and they don’t bother to look back.

 

I really don’t care if you hate me for this piece; after all I am not jollof rice, so I am not here to please everyone.  But I am only saying the truth and I want all these cover up for irresponsible men in our society to stop.

 

If you are done with a woman be bold enough to tell her and please do not get your children involved in this. It’s very annoying seeing young children suffer for things they know nothing about. Besides, if you are a runaway husband and you are reading this, I know I really have no business with what you do with your life but while you’re away frolicking with that tear rubber wife don’t forget your duty towards your children.

 

I can understand an affair and marriage break down but what I really don’t get is leaving without getting your wife involved. Every woman in such situation, please seek help when you are caught in this web of deceit. Never regret falling in love whole-heartedly and stop blaming yourself. It wasn’t about you but him.  Then go wash him off your hair and move on because this life is too short be miserable over an ingrate who doesn’t deserve your heart.

 

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Credits: Bolatito on Sunday by The Sun