A woman who is going through the travails of marriage writes narrating her husband's unprecedented libido and passion for oral sex as against her interest in clean sex which is causing a deterioration in the foundation of her marriage.
Dear Tori News,
Thanks for allowing people to share their pains on your news platform. A problem shared is a problem solved they say. A lot of women are dying in silence.
I am Julie Osagie (Not real name), 37 from Edo state. I got married to my husband 5 years ago. We are blessed with two kids, a boy and a girl to be specific. He was a god-fearing man with a very moderate and decent sex life. Events took a new turn when my husband was sent to France for an 8-month course by the construction company he is working for in Lagos.
His absence was a very difficult period for the family as we missed him physically and I had to stay celibate for that lengthy time. In the first week, we spoke virtually more than 10 times in a day, it was either he was calling, sending text messages or chatting me up on Whatsapp. It was as if he was close to me. In the third week, I noticed a bit of withdrawal, he became hard to reach at night. I brought that to his attention but he would give an excuse about his tight lecture schedule which I understood. Later on, his attention was reduced to like two to three times in a week.
The bottom line which I later discovered was that he was sleeping with some French ladies in Paris. When he returned to Nigeria after the 8-month course, my husband that does the missionary style for probably one or two rounds became wild. Our first night after the 8 months made me feel his training in Paris, France was on sex. He introduced me to doggy, acrobatic style, blind sex, tieing of hands, getting drunk, oral sex, anal sex, pouring of ice-cream on the body of your partner for subsequent licking and the most irritating of all 69.
I don't want to go into details in order not to make this piece sound erotic. That night was like my judgement day, I almost passed out. Even after 2 hours my husband was still in the mood. He bought some sex enhancing drugs which shocked me. During one of our sessions from the 'back', he started smacking by backside and screaming 'say my name bitch! Scream it!!
It was from that moment I realized I had lost him. He is so obsessed with oral sex. I find that so dirty. You will suck it actively for virtually 40 minutes and go down his balls as he commands till he cums in your mouth. My doctor told me that it is not healthy and I know it's not. I can't continue like this.
My work performance has been affected due to the physical and emotional stress I pass through every night. As a front desk officer, I have been caught sleeping times without numbers to the embarrassment of my company that pays well. My entire body is always sore including my mouth due to the violent sex we have instead of lovemaking. I take the pains and he takes the pleasure. Personally, I feel that is selfish.
He confessed to me that he ate forbidden fruits in France out of boredom and since then, he has been unstoppable. He has advised me to up my sexual game so as to save my marriage. I am also contemplating leaving him due to his extra-ordinary libido which is affecting my prayer life.
I don't want to lose him, I love him so much and I want to keep our family together but at the same time, I can't cope with his sexual prowess.
Pls advise me. Your solution could save a life.