An angry and bitterly betrayed woman has cried out for help after a shocking revelation she discovered involving her husband is about ruining her once happy life.
Dear Readers,
I have been married for 16 years now, and my husband has been wonderful although sometimes things fall out, we quarrel and bond becomes stronger when we settle our scores, but of recent, last year, he started behaving funny and keeping secrets. I started noticing that and kept asking him what troubles him, but he wouldn't speak. He is an engineer and can travel around, whenever he gets job.
Sometimes he stays a month or two out of the house. I am a tailor, by Gods special grace we built our duplex and we have 4 boys. My first kids (twins) are in secondary school. My mother in-aw lives with us. Even his mother noticed the restlessness in her son and called him for a private discussion, which she later revealed to me that he told her nothing troubles him, that it is just work stress. My mother in-law told me to stop worrying myself, that he is an adult.
So from that day, I quit asking. I am a tailor and do have apprentices. So one day,he called me an impromptum call saying he is at the airport traveling , that it is urgent. I said ok safe trip. He left and stayed two weeks, when he came back, the guilt was all over his face, always carrying his phone everywhere, even the children can't play games with it again. He shouts like crazy, his mother got angry and shouted at him one day, telling him to ease up. He should speak out and stop bottling up things. Asking him to go back from where he came from, let's have peace.
So one Sunday his friends came visiting, on Sunday and there was no drink at home and he asked our house boy to come tell me to take money from his back pant pocket. When I got there, bringing out the money, some bank deposits slips fell, ( access bank deposits slip) to the same person, a girl, 35,000, 60,000, 38,000. The same month. I was dazed. When he finished with his friends and entered the room, I asked him, what business does he have with a lady named Susan, he shivered hearing the name, goose pimples fell on him. He said she is his colleague and said I should go get his food.
Last 2 month something happened , he was preparing for work upstairs and his phone vibrated, he was charging it downstairs. Hearing the sound, I looked at the caller, it was that same name l saw in the bank deposit, I picked it and asked her does she want to speak to my husband. She said, I should give him the phone, that why am I picking his calls. I was like he is my husband, so picking his calls are not crime to me. She said keep off his phones, that's respect and cut the call.
Next was a text message after like 10 minutes. I couldn't read it because it was passworded. So when he came down the stair case, ate his breakfast and entering his car, I told him Susan called and I spoke to her. He was like why did you not bring my phone to the room for me, I said he was in the shower then, he now drove off. My husband is asthmatic and his own is so heavy that if it start, if he is not admitted and watched closely by the doctors then he wouldn't come out of it quickly.
Last month from headache to high blood pressure, from that it triggered off the asthma. I do have apprentices at my shop, and they are good girls, that in my absence my customers don't complain. So I took out time to take care of him at the hospital, when he is asleep, calls come into his phones and messages too, some he answers and some he don't. So on one occasion I mistakenly took the phone home in my bag without knowing, and the Susan called! I picked. She said can she speak to my husband, I said sorry , that he is indisposed, she started shouting, can't you let his phone be. Go and face your tailoring, I kept wondering what her stress is. She said tell your husband to call me and he shouldn't waste time in doing that before I get angry with him, and she switched off.
My mother inlaw was with me when this happened. She just told me that there is more to this and I should not take my husbands phone to the hospital anymore, that I should leave it with her. When I was cooking the lady called again, because I left for the market to get vegetables and stew items to cook and take to my husband to eat. Hoping that my husband will pick, but my mother inlaw picked it and asked her why she is bugging her son, not even greeting hearing it was an old woman, she said mama you and your son will hear from me and my family soon if he does not fulfill the promise he made to her.
Mama was like what promise, the lady told her that my husband had a son with her. And that the boy is 9 months old, and that my husband promise sending her money, but he hasn't spoken to her for days. Mama look dazed, hearing that I can't even continue cooking, I felt so betrayed. I picked my phone, called the lady back, because I copied her number, told her that from that day onwards, that my husband will never send a dine to her, that she and her family should do their worst.
I feel so betrayed, so so betrayed. I have been a tailor since I was 19years, out of hardship I dropped out of school for my siblings to continue, I went to learn tailoring. I lived in Lagos with my parents, this land me and my husband built in was bought by my me, I bought the land with my money before he married me at 33years, and for the sake of marriage, I opened up to him and we started structure on the land, haven't I been a good wife?what is all these. Honestly the call put me off that I never crossed the hospital again till he returned, all he could say that he is sorry . How can a man I have devoted everything to, betray my trust like this. His mother is a good woman, she made me not to miss my late mother at all. My husband is her only child.
The lady is not even ashamed to show face at my gate last Sunday with her baby, shouting like an idiot, she is Yoruba, she almost fought my gate keeper. what I did was to call the police people and got her arrested with her mother that came, my husband woke me up at night to tell me to go to the police and bail them, but I left the room for him. I feel so used and stupid! What can I do in this situation? Will this marriage ever remain the same again? He is 55years and am 50 years old. The lady should be in her 40s(just guessing from her cream looks). Sorry for this lengthy story!
From Anonymous worried wife.
Shared by Cynthia Uju Raphael, a relationship expert and manager.