A Nigerian man who has been horrified by the list of things to get before he marries his fiancee has cried out for direction in his confusion.
File photo: A wedding scenario
The unnamed man is very much in love with his fiancee but he is stuck as he cannot provide all the things he is being asked to bring, and is now seeking advise.
Below is what he wrote (edited):
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Please help me; this is bigger than me.
The thing is, I want to settle down with my love whom I have dated for over 2 yrs now. But the problem I have now has to do with my in-laws and their kinsmen.
Ngo okpala people in Imo state want to render me useless with their traditional list. The list they gave me is close to 600,000 naira. I don't know whether they intentionally want to scare me away or if that is really how they do but my fiancee said that her elder sister's husband was given the same list but I don't believe it because that guy who married her elder sister is not even rich so I can't understand how he coughed out such money.
I am confused. I really do not know what to do now. They told me that if I'm not ready to marry, I should leave their daughter alone. I have even tried to borrow but all my friend are crying that they don't have money because of the economic situation of the country.
One of my friends suggested that I should get her pregnant and that when her family sees it, they will become helpless. I have been thinking about it but I don't know how to tell her of the idea and I don't know how she will react to it.
Please advice me on what to do becasue I love her so much.