Posted by Amarachi on Fri 26th Apr, 2024 - tori.ng
He advised them to understand that polygamy is permissible in Islam and they should get used to it before marriage to address many issues in the union.
A Nigerian marriage therapist, Shamseddin Giwa, has a message for Muslim women unhappy about polygamy.
He advised them to understand that polygamy is permissible in Islam and they should get used to it before marriage.
According to him, these women might be the best wives to their husbands but the man would still decide to take a second wife.
"The shock for many Muslim first wives begins when the husband announces the decision to take another wife given the mindset and upbringing that if you do your best your husband will not desire another," he wrote in a Facebook post on Thursday.
''The truth: You may be the best wife and your husband still wants another.
You may be less than average and your husband doesn’t take another.
It’s not always about you. A man who will marry another wife, will marry another wife.
From there, the bitterness sets in and a battle mode engaged towards the incoming wife who may even be trying her own best to make things work.
Understanding what’s permissible in Islam and aligning before marriage helps to address many of these issues. May Allah make it easy.''