Posted by Samuel on Sun 08th Mar, 2026 - tori.ng
She recounted how she gave one of such men money , only for the man to use the funds to fly a girl abroad.
Nollywood actress, Idia Aisien recently broke down in tears during a sit-down with media personality Toke Makinwa as she spoke about the pain of being in relationships with people who eventually broke her heart.
During the interview with Toke, Idia revealed that she gave money to men she dated in the past, but they then turned around to hurt her. She said these exes came up with claims that their businesses are failing and as a lady dating for marriage, she supported them financially.
She recounted how she gave one of such men money , only for the man to use the funds to fly a girl abroad.
She said; ’I used to give men money. They will say their business is bad. I will give them a couple of million. Now I am just like…..You know, you are dating for marriage and you don't want the guy to not do well and o if he is trying to invest in something that is not grow…you know how they always say there is ups and downs for guys. So if you help the guy in the beginning, then later when the guy is up, he will now also help you. How he treats you is dependent on how you treat him.''
Toke however disagreed with helping boyfriends. According to her, when a lady is not engaged or married to a man, whatever his destiny has in store for him is totally his business.
‘’You don't have a ring on your finger, so that man's destiny has nothing to do with you! If it is up, down, sideways, back, left, right…that is his motherf#cking business''
Idia then asked what a woman is supposed to do when she has a lot of money and her man needs her help.
Toke said all she can afford to do is give him the motivation he needs and say positive things to him but that her money will never be part of it. She averred that she has got cousins and other relatives who if she gives money, would pray for her to grow.
Idia went on to narrate how she gave money to a man who instead of using it for business as he claimed, used the money to fly to Dubai.
‘’There was this guy I gave money and then I remember all of a sudden his phone wasn't going through. I was trying to reach him. He then explained to me his phone wasn't working…blah..blah…blahh…and then I found out he had flown a popular girl business class to Dubai or South Africa at the time.
"He claimed he was in Lagos but that his phone was having issues. It was one of my brothers that told me that your boyfriend is here with a babe and I was like ‘no it’s not possible.
"He is in Lekki' My brother was like ‘are you mad?’ My brother now sent me a picture. When I now told him he was in Dubai, he now goes ‘no babe, my friends dragged me’ I said but I just gave you money for business and he was like ‘it’s even for the business thing they dragged him''
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