You might be shocked at what you find out to consists of some of the top ten biggest s*x fears men harbour.
According to a report by
Dailystar, in a bid to make everyone more aware of the fears we face in the bedroom, Superdrug Online Doctor quizzed more than 900 lads from Europe and the US about their biggest sexual anxieties.
The survey revealed the top 10 troubles men think about during s*x.
It turns out the the biggest worry lads had was sleeping with someone with an STI – probably in case they catch it themselves.
Thankfully you can protect against most sexually transmitted infections by simply wearing a condom – although technically it is possible to catch a disease without having s*x, even if you’re a virgin.
If you want to avoid getting infected, make sure you’re clued up about the seven shockingly easy ways you can contract an STI without taking your clothes off.
But when you do wrap up, make sure you use a condom that actually fits and take your time to put it to minimise your risk. When it comes to guys other s*x-related fears, performance issues cropped up again and again on the top 10 list.
Lads biggest performance-related anxiety was not being able to satisfy their partner or make them orgasm, which ranked second in the list of most common scares.
Men also expressed concerns about premature ejaculation, being bad at sex, being inexperienced and simply not being able to perform in the sack.
Body image was also revealed as a big bother, with guys worrying that girls wouldn’t find their naked body attractive.
Predictably penis size was a major concern and many men admitted to fretting about their todger being too small.
The researchers said: “While STI and pregnancy fears comprised two of the top three fears for men, surprisingly, the number two fear (above even the worry of unintended pregnancy) was that a partner will not achieve an orgasm or feel satisfied.
As for the rest of the list, the majority of men’s sex fears related to insecurities: ejaculating prematurely, feeling unattractive, being unable to “perform” or “bad” at sex or penis size worries.
“S*x should be a positive and healthy experience for all involved – and an experience that involves open communication between partners about sexual health, contraception, boundaries and other important topics.
“Don’t let embarrassment get in the way of discussing important issues or taking care of your sexual health issues.”
We spoke to sexpert Samantha Evans, co-owner of s*x toy retailer Jo Divine, to get to the bottom of why men are worrying about bad bedroom performance so much.
In an exclusive interview with Daily Star Online, Samantha said that the porn industry is making lads panic.
She explained: “If people are learning everything they know about sex from porn, they may never enjoy good s*x.
“Porn stars are actors, so the scenes they portray are not how s*x is played out in real life. Actors use tricks of the trade to pump up their penises and sexual performance enhancers to keeping going.
“S*x is meant to be fun, messy, noisy and embarrassing, it’s not a performance. Finding out what works for you and your partner is important.
“Constantly comparing yourself to porn actors or the latest celebrity isn’t realistic. S*x on films and TV never portray what real sex is like.”
Samantha stressed the importance of feeling comfortable and communicating with your partner.
She said: “Couples who enjoy the best sex are the ones who talk to each other about how they feel and what they love about s*x.
“Nipping to the loo to have a wee after sex is normal as is grabbing the box of tissues so feeling s*x may be awkward afterwards is normal, it’s not this picture perfect scene in a movie where she lies with her hair all carefully messed up and he has a smug smile on his face, in real life one of you will probably be lying in the wet patch.
“Use lubricants and s*x toys or bondage to spice up your sx play. Ask your partner what they love and tell them what you enjoy too. Stop worrying about your body image, you partner loves you for who you are.
“Most women are content with what a man can do with his penis, not how big it is, and prefer the girth to be bigger rather than the length. However, some women like bigger ones and some like smaller ones.”
Here are mens’ top 10 s*x-related fears:
1. Your partner has an STI
2. Your partner won’t have an orgasm or be satisfied
3. The condom will break/sex will result in unintended pregnancy
4. You’ll ejaculate prematurely
5. Your partner will find your naked body unattractive
6. You won’t be able to perform
7. You are bad at s*x
8. Your penis is too small
9. Your partner will think you are inexperienced
10. It will be awkward after s*x