Despite the toll that infertility a marriage can have on a marriage, seasoned relationship therapist, Elizabeth Badejo has advised on the possibility of still finding love and happiness in that situation.
The season of struggle is the best time you can build your self confidence and depend on one another in your marriage. Infertility is one struggle nobody ever prepares couples for during the courtship period, a no go area which may be misinterpreted as wishing the couple bad luck in marriage. Today it has become a major life challenge in many marriages, causing some certain kind of pains and confusion when not properly managed. Just like any other complication, it has the capacity to destroy marriage.
Unfortunately, a women dealing with infertility can sometimes feel that she is carrying the burden alone if she is not getting the necessary support from her spouse and it can affect her emotional stability and her vulnerability at large.
Empathy is key
The journey of infertility in your marriage must be seen as a shared responsibility and not a burden for your wife alone to bear, it is therefore important that you are both open and honest with each other about your individual feelings during the waiting period.
Your wife may have suddenly lost pleasure and interest in the things you once enjoyed together during this waiting period and this is a common trait in most women going through the anxiety and unhappiness when pregnancy is delayed. Even though you may not be able to solve her problem, you must also learn to accept her feelings as your support is very important at this time.
Fight your fears
Some couples are afraid to admit the problem of infertility in their marriage; they feel that acceptance could mean that they are managing to keep the marriage together. The most difficult truth about infertility is fear but if you are both open-minded about the situation, you will be able to fight your fears. You can both help each other to balance the way you think and feel as you both journey through the process of parenthood.
Inasmuch as this may sound insensitive, the truth can hurt so deep and infertility can certainly put your marriage to test. But when you consider all the opportunities you have to make your marriage stronger despite the challenges, it is only then that you can find the strength to carry on.
Protect your spouse
One of greatest challenges you and your spouse will face during the course of her infertility will be dealing with the opinions and reactions of others. It is not unusual for families and friends to offer their own solutions, make certain suggestions and give opinions too which may or may not go down well with you or your spouse. Rather than give in to the desperation that comes when you work against the human biological clock, you must both learn to put your trust in one who is in control while you continue to protect and encourage each other at all time.