Pastor Bolaji Idowu Warns Singles Against Selfish Partners

(Pastor Idowu Bolaji. Photo by Wikipedia)

Pastor Bolaji Idowu of Harvesters Church says people should deal with their selfishness before getting into a relationship.

Preaching at a sermon titled "Fixing and Restoring A Broken Relationship And Marriage," he warned against dating someone who makes everything about themselves.

He used Proverbs 23:6 to make his point.

He gave the example of a woman who insists on an iPhone 18 for her birthday even when her partner says he cannot afford it.

"You will know you did not find a wife.

You found a knife," he said.

He also spoke about a man who buys an expensive phone for himself but never thinks about upgrading his partner's phone.

Idowu said that shows a lack of care.

"Love doesn't need to be asked. Love takes initiative," he said.

He added that people should watch how a partner treats others, not just how they treat them, because someone can pretend to care while looking out for themselves.