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Ladies Matter: Don’t Fling Your Virginity To The Dogs

Posted by George on Sat 30th Nov, 2019 -

Relationship writer and adviser, Temilolu Okeowo of The Punch has given her advice on virginity and s*x.


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Dear ma,

I’m always excited when I read your articles. I’m 15 and still a virgin! I love my life the way it is. I feel so bad when I hear of girls my age who are no longer virgins. I am forever grateful for your advice to teenagers. May Allah bless you and your family!


Dear Mummy Temilolu,

I’m 16 years old and I’ve been keeping a relationship with a boy since May. He would be celebrating his birthday on December 10 and he requested my virginity as his birthday gift.

I told him I don’t want to lose my ‘dignity’ because I value it. Mummy, please advise me. I don’t know what to do!


My Sweeties,

You already know the physical consequences of having sex as outlined not only in your science books but on any platform where you’re advised to abstain from sex to avoid unwanted pregnancy, sexually-transmitted diseases etc. I won’t bother going into that!

As you know, I would always emphasise the spiritual consequences. This is because when you get deflowered, life is never the same again. There are dire consequences you’re certainly not ripe enough to deal with! Besides, God frowns at premarital sex/fornication and every form of sexual immorality! Have you even considered how many boys/men you may end up sleeping with if you start now? Hmm…this is a serious matter!

This may appear strange but your virginity is the seal of your virtues! It is the spiritual gate of your life! It is powerful enough to determine your life’s journey! It is the CONTAINER OF YOUR SPIRITUAL STRENGTH! IT CAN PLACE THE ENTIRE WORLD AT YOUR FEET! Believe me, if you are still a virgin, you don’t know what you have! If no one has told you, with your virginity intact, you have conquered 80 per cent of life’s troubles because as long as the gates of your spirituality aren’ defiled yet, you have enormous power of God resident in you!

The world’s your oyster! You can command life to suit you. The devil can’t easily mess with you.

The best things in life are at your beck and call! Although, I know virgins who got married to wicked men and whose lives went downhill as a result of their marriage, I can beat my chest that if you start activating the power of God in you with your virginity, you will lead a dream life.

If you’re single and no longer a virgin, it’s in your best interest to stop fornicating and surrender to God for repairs! This may sound strange, but you can’t imagine what you’re losing by the day! Remember, “Eyes have not seen neither has any ear heard nor can any mind perceive what God has prepared for those who love Him. But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit.” 1 Cor. 2:9-10

How can you see this wonders if your spirit is jammed with multiple strange spirits and demons? The transaction that occurs during sexual intercourse WEIGHS HEAVILY IN THE SPIRITUAL REALM! You can’t imagine what’s going out and entering your life! It could be LIFE-ALTERING and LIFE-TRANSFORMING!!!

If you’re single and still a virgin, I congratulate you! If you’re single and no longer a virgin, may the fire of God penetrate through your spirit to tame your flesh and open your eyes to the glory God has reserved for you.

So, while congratulating you for still being ‘your original,’ I plead with you in God’s name not to dash away your virginity to that guy that has stolen your soul with love poems! Don’t get deflowered till your wedding night! Godly sex is sweet and very precious. In fact, it’s heaven on earth, while ungodly sex may appear sweet, it sells you to the devil who then takes over the reins of your life and begins to control it! Be patient, be patient, be patient please!


You can be world-renowned and glorified in a special way. Please channel your thoughts towards your studies/self-development and that special gift in you that God has deposited to announce you to the world! You’ll be pleasantly amazed that God has been waiting to flaunt you before the world! May the monarch of the universe, the ruler of time, the ancient of days visit your life in this depraved times and empower you to remain chaste till your wedding night!

I invite you to follow me on Facebook –TEMILOLU OKEOWO Instagram @ Okeowo Temilolu.

Are you still engaging in pre-marital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a secondary virgin! You are most welcome on board the chastity campaign train and Girls Club is open for all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation and state of domicile to 07086620576.

Final word

Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Stay chaste! 

Source: Punch

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