Help! He Gives Me Fantastic S*x, But I Am Confused Because of This...

 

I finally had s*x with a guy I’ve been talking to for three years. We have hooked up on a number of occasions since then and the sex is fantastic – but I’m not sure if I’m being used and wasting my time.

 

I’m 26 and this guy is 28.

 

We met on a dating site and got talking and arranged to go on a date.

We enjoyed each other’s company and planned to have another date but somehow didn’t get round to it for three years.

 

When I met him I was about to go to university to train as a social worker and he works for a bank which is very full-on, so we never met up in person but kept messaging when we could.

 

We both admitted we liked each other and agreed not to pull anyone else when we go out.

At the time I didn’t think it would bother me if he did because we’d never been in a relationship or anything.

 

About a year ago he messaged me and said he still wanted to see me again but he’d been seeing someone else. However, he said it wasn’t working and he didn’t want to lose my friendship.

 

I told him I was hurt but I forgave him.

 

But then it felt very one-sided so I just stopped messaging and didn’t hear from him for six months. He texted me out of the blue one day last month and it was like old times. We finally had the long-awaited date number two and all the feelings I had for him came rushing back.

 

We went for a meal in a really good restaurant, he picked up the bill and then we ended up back at his flat and had amazing sex.

 

We’ve met up several times since and it’s always been fun. We get on really well and have a laugh but I can’t work out if it’s just a hook-up thing or if it could lead to something more serious. He hasn’t said how he feels about me.

 

I don’t want to come over as clingy or needy so I haven’t asked him. I’m struggling to work out for myself whether he’s for real. It’s been a long time since I have felt like this about anyone.