Charly Boy and his daughter, Dewy
Nigerian singer and songwriter, Charly Boy Oputa has penned an open letter to his daughter, apologising for his actions after she revealed her sexuality to him.
Charly Boy had shared a post last week, saying he's proud to have a lesbian daughter and he supports her completely. But his daughter, Dewy Oputa hit back, stating that her father doesn't pick her calls and she was rendered homeless after she publicized her sexuality. She accused her dad of using her to chase clout as father of the year online, while caring nothing about her in real life.
Charly Boy has now responded. He said he was amused by his daughter's public condemnation because it's the same way he and his father - former Supreme Court justice Chukwudifu Oputa - butted heads before he was able to be independent.
"Lion no fit born goat, " he added.
He asked Dewy to forgive him and promised to allow her to tell her story and to respect her perspectives.
"My Dear Dewy,
I know the last few days may have been tough for you flowing from my Friday post
“For Parents Only” on my Instagram.
I apologize if my post rubbed you the wrong way, for this I am deeply sorry, my bad.
I was talking to parents trying to get them to understand that they-can only give good advice or put their children on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.
I came into parenting the way most of us did — knowing nothing but trying to learn everything, becos, who no go no fit know.
The journey of parenthood is an emotional roller-coaster, filled with happiness, sadness, worries, frustration, pride, excitement and much more. Parenting is an amazing adventure.
When people dey yab me say you dey tackle me for social media, I just dey laff.
I dey laff bcos Na so I tackle my papa before I collect my independence. Lion no fit born goat. Never forget that the Oputa’s are very special people, and in you I see me.
Since Saturday morning I have received thousands of phone calls from parents and young people who feel disconnected with their parents. Their testimony has been quite insightful.
I was only able to offer a listening ear and soothing words, but I feel taller because our story inspired thousands.
That’s a good thing.
My darling, I promise to allow you tell your story like I have been able to tell mine. I respect your perspectives and I understand. I brought you all up as Global Kids and not as timid village champions.
Let’s just go back to the friendship we have been working on.
I love you and no one can contest, not even you.
My Charly Girl