Help! I Love S*x So Much, But My Boyfriend Cannot Perform in Bed

 

We moved in together in 2013 and now we’re rowing all the time. I thought that sharing the same bed would naturally lead to love making every night, but he disagrees. He recoils when I touch him and feels insulted when I ask him to perform.

 

He shouts back that he’s not a circus animal and that I’m insensitive for expecting him to “put on a show” on cue. He rants that I should learn to restrain myself, saying he works all day and that he’s tired and distracted? 

 

But I work full-time too and I’m still up for fun. I’ve tried to explain that I love and desire him and enjoy expressing that love physically. But then he gets nasty and calls me a s*x addict. He accuses me of reading too many women’s magazines and having unrealistic expectations.

 

Then recently we were at a dinner party and I was left open mouthed as he joshed along with the other guys making crude jokes about women and s*x and being a player.

 

The truth is that he hasn’t touched me in months. In the cab home I called him out on it and he blew his top, accusing me of constantly doing him down.

 

Then he sort-of muttered something about hating s*x and finding it too messy and unnecessary. This is not the kind of relationship that I signed up to. All of my ex-boyfriends were loving and amorous and up for s*x 24/7. It was always me pushing them away in bed after the second or third time!