I May Give My Wife The Red Card - Husband Laments

Posted by George on Wed 25th Jul, 2018 - tori.ng

An unnamed Nigerian man has explained how external interference is crippling his home as he nurses a plan to divorce his wife.

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This married man was bold enough to share his marital problems on a popular Nigerian online forum for people to share and discuss.

His challenges underscore the African problem of how husbands are made to carry the financial burden of her in-laws.

Read his story below:

"My wife and her family members are driving me crazy. Their involvement in my home is becoming embarrassing. I may have to give my wife the red card ASAP.

Her family pokenoses into all my affairs. How I spend my money, who I give my money to, who I visit, and so on. All they want is to continue to expend money on them and live my life for them. I got their daughter a job, her salary isn't enough for them, how can I be taking care of able-bodied men who have refused to work with their certificates, looking for jobs with good pays before they'll work, their pensioner father is not also helping matters, very difficult to please.

I have made it known to my wife that our marriage contract did not include pleasing her family members but she won't listen then I worked my transfer from Lagos to Abuja, yet they're on my neck. My wife's younger brother is presently in Abuja without any clear cut mission other than to come and monitor my affairs. He called me around 7pm yesterday to tell me he's in Utako and that I should come and pick him from pack, I told him I didn't invite him to Abuja so why should I pick him up? I asked him if he didn't have a mission before coming and why he should get to Abuja before notifying me that he's coming to my place. I shunned him and switched off my phone.

I switched on the phone now only to read 3 abusive text messages from my wife and one from her father threatening that if anything happens to his son, I'll be held responsible. My people, can you see my life?

My pastor have been trying to broker peace between us before I left for Abuja to no avail, what I intended to do is to settle down here and get her relocated so that if she's a bit far from her family, things will work out. I'll instruct a lawyer to file divorce papers tomorrow, I can no longer take it."