Please Help!: He Thought I Was in Love With Him, But I Was Only Playing - Confused Woman Cries Out

 

The woman shared her story showing how a colleague mistook her playfulness for love.

 

Below is what she shared:

 

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Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and I was a junior staff.

 

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

 

When he resumed, because I knew him before, I started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, I was like "Common like at you!"

 

I hugged him tightly and people were surprised at our closeness before I informed them that we had worked together before.

 

I am a jovial person, so each time I go around his office, I would call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing because I will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

 

On the job, we get to work together at times because I am a Manager now. We go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though I am not employed as a video producer, I told him I can do those for him personally, because I recently learnt those. He was surprised before but he decided to give me a try. I did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said I was helping him solve a lot of problems.

 

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing I started it but I just thought that was it though.

 

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping. I helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun. He took me to shoprite and ask me to shop. I just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all I said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that I said I was okay, that it wasn't appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said "you do have some very good attribute girl."  I said like what, he said "never mind" and we drove off.

 

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so I told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner. I close late, I'm a workaholic, so most times I will agree but I will work till 9pm and he would have waited and gotten tired and left.

 

Finally I got to have a dinner date with him and he asked if we could do this more often, I said "why not, boyfriend" jokingly.

 

He started telling me how he loved me and how we need to make our love work and how he will really love relationship to be strong.

 

He said he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong because we work in the same place, but that I could think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision I make.

 

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, I can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting. Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

 

I feel guilty because I gave him that impression about a love that didn't even exist at the time.

 

Well, last night we were together, I told him I am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that I believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol.

 

He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, "Yes I am old enough to have been married and I had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things I neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and I am ready to make it work this time I promise, I have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, I want to make it right this time"

 

MEHN THOSE WORDS RING IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE.

 

I loved the fact that he didn't put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

 

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but I like him a lot, I like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but I do not feel anything aside that.

 

What do you guys advise.