Marriage Is An Achievement - Nigerian Woman Who Was A Widow Last Christmas, Says As She Remarries

Temmy Omoileri, the Canada-based Nigerian woman, who remarried five years after her husband’s death, has described marriage as a significant achievement.

The healthcare worker, who disclosed this on Christmas Day, shared photos from her wedding ceremony, saying that nothing comes close to the feeling of being loved and to love.

“I was a widow last Christmas. Married to my love this year and I'm celebrating this Christmas as a married woman.

"As long as I live on earth, I want to do right by you my love. It feels good to be loved and to love. Marriage is an achievement!! I achieved this in 2025,” she wrote. 

Reacting to criticisms that trailed her assertion that ;marriage is an achievement', she reiterated her stance, saying that after spending five years alone, there is no substitute for the feeling of waking up beside her husband, eating meals together, holding hands, going on long trips and making plans. 

According to her, no matter how successful a person is, a dildo cannot replace the emotional and physical intimacy of a human partner. 

“Have you seen The Bucket List? If not, watch it. Then come back and tell me if you still think marriage isn’t an achievement. I’ve spent five years sleeping alone on a top-tier Tempur-Pedic mattress.

"I can roll around under beautiful blankets all I want, but the bed still feels empty. Luxury is vague and hollow without a soft touch, an intentional cuddle, or a random kiss. There is no substitute for the feeling of waking up and knowing someone is there to share a coffee and a life with you,” she wrote. 

"Let’s be honest: I don’t want to discuss my next mortgage with a friend who might secretly resent my success. I want a man by my side—a partner who is brainstorming the next move with me. When I see a car I love, I want to ask, "When are we buying this?" Going on a long drive alone isn't "sweet." It’s quiet. Too quiet. Real joy feels like heaven, and it looks like this: * Exchanging driving shifts on a long trip. * Holding hands and random caresses while viewing the mountains. * Taking pictures and eating meals together. * Planning beach visits for the summer. We all feel the void of loneliness, yet we pretend we don't. Stop living in a delusional state. 

"No matter how successful or "comfortable" you are, a dildo cannot embrace you or give you a deep kiss. Touching yourself isn't empowerment; it’s stressful. Marriage is an achievement. Be comfortable saying it. Embrace it. Love it. Money doesn’t replace a partner; it only makes the journey you share with them smoother. 

“My world is too quiet when I’m driving alone. Even the music makes more sense when he’s in the passenger seat. That is my reality, and it is highly therapeutic. 2026 is coming. Don’t stay closed-minded. Be open, and let that joy come crashing at your doorstep. I love you all.”