A young woman has stepped forward to narrate her astonishing experience of a brief, arranged marriage with her estranged husband.
She revealed she was approached by an elderly couple who believed she would be the ideal match for their son, who was returning from overseas.
According to woman known as @Mizpah_Ms on X app, because she was already feeling the pressure to find a husband, she agreed to the arrangement, intrigued by the idea of marrying a good, down-to-earth man.
The woman talked about the moments leading up to her marriage and the subsequent realization that her husband was not attracted to women.
She discovered him watching gay p0rnography. Despite her shock and attempts to confront him, he remained unapologetic and dismissive of her feelings, leaving her feeling numb and betrayed.
She decided to end the marriage after three months. She reached out to her husband’s parents, who seemed aware of their son’s true identity and believed that finding him a wife would “fix” him.
As she navigated the aftermath of the failed marriage, she discovered that her ex-husband had gained fame on Instagram while his parents had left the church.
Despite the challenges she faced, the woman found strength in moving forward and finding her own path to happiness.
She wrote; “My 2 minutes arranged marriage to a gay man. Well year 2019, I was turning 30 and the only unmarried woman at that age in my church. So this elderly couple approached me and they told me about their son overseas who was coming back to Johannesburg in few months time. Mrs M told me how he thinks I was good for his son even though he was a year younger, she felt we were perfect for each other.
“Me being under pressure of settling I actually ended up liking the idea of marrying this good man. They gave me his contacts later I texted him. He was already expecting my text as he had already been told about this prayerful warrior. A seemingly perfect match for him, a good, down to earth man.
Surprisingly our first conversation was great and we just kept on talking as I we’ve known each other forever.
“We arranged to get married as soon as he gets back, we both wanted something very small, so a church wedding was ideal. It was not going to be announced only our pastor and parents knew about it. He finally came back, we met and the vibe kinda changed but there was no going back. We got married at a church service on a Sunday a very quick exchange of vows situation, cake cutting boom it was done.
“We drove to his parents house to spend our first night together as husband and wife. We were going to get our own in few weeks time. I took a shower and changed into my sexy lingerie, ndaya erumin with that slow walk when you know you’re sexy and all. I felt like Naomi Campbell with Nicki Minaj ass.
Walked towards my man, wandijonga ntjoo ngamehlo it was like he was seeing a ghost Go. I looked behind me.
“Zange lavuka that night and days after, | even thought he needed to consult until I walked on him eshaya indIwamu to gay p0rn.. When I tried to make a scene out of that he said “stop being dramatic and close that door, Kanti Wena mzala all along ubungaboni ukuthi zikipani?”
At that moment I was numb form seeing that to being called mzala and asked that question.
“I went and sat beside him, he said a lot but he was unapologetic about what just happened. All i could hear was his parents should never find out. I called his mom she came with her husband as I’d they knew something was up. I said “Lo sis bhuti wenu has something to say, for now I’m going back home to find myself a real husband” his mom’s response made me realise they knew about this and thought finding him a wife Would “fix him” you know how stereotyped Christians are.
“I stayed married to him for 3 months afterwards. Went to church together did a lot as a normal couple will do except for sex. Foolish I know. I was still trying to find a way to deal with people after umshado we 2 seconds. My ex is now a famous baddie on IG, his parents left church they thought I’ll go around telling people. They were those typical staunch Christians. I hear their relationship is not that good, he since left his parent’s home.”
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My 2 minutes arranged marriage to a gay man😭😭
— Mizpah (@Mizpah_Ms) November 20, 2023
Well year 2019, I was turning 30 and the only unmarried woman at that age in my church. So this elderly couple approached me and they told me about their son overseas who was coming back to Johannesburg in few months time