A Nigerian woman, Anastasia Odochi Uchenna Ozoemena, has taken to Facebook to advise women to ensure they are a man's spec before going into a relationship so that they don't start feeling insecure when they get dumped.
According to her, this is to avoid future heartbreak because men get married for different reasons.
The journalist, who gave the advice in in a post on Monday, March 25, 2024, narrated how her ex dumped her and married a fresh graduate despite the fact that she is doing well professionally, drives an SUV and travels abroad.
"It's actually heartbreaking that in this time and age of knowledge and social media, ladies still cry over a guy that married another person while he was dating them. I know it's a bad hit. I have experienced it too," she wrote.
A guy I was dating in Abuja left me and married a Corps member.. At that time I was covering politics for my station, was driving an SUV, travel abroad, etc. I was a" big girl" by all standard.
My ex was a banker and doing well in his own right. But he married a " fresh graduate"
As Journalist wey I be, I wanted to find out. I summoned his younger brother and what I heard blew my mind. I was close to the brother while we were dating and of course I was very generous ( younger ones dey like that Kain girl friend )
Back to the purpose of my post.
A lot of times after a guy leaves a lady for another, she begins to second guess herself.
She develops complex issues and believe she is not good enough or something spiritual is fighting her. Go to prayer houses in Aba, na women and girls full am. Half are praying over marriage
Dear sisters, every man has a spec. An idea of what his wife should look like. I mean certain characteristics. If you don't have it, if you like fine or get money, he will not marry you.
Some men are the only son in the family and parents have warned that they must marry from their state or village.
Some are big on denomination. You must be a member of their church.
Some are big on looks. If you no get big breast or bum bum, you are disqualified
Some need a younger girl they can control. One who will depend solely on them.
Men marry for different reasons. Please find out if you are his spec for marriage.
If you don't, be rest assured you are a candidate for heartbreak''.
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